It would be easy to say you reap what you sow, but in a marriage it seems so much more complicated than that. You both hurt each other, but he seems to only be able to feel his pain now. That is so sad.
Focus ahead though, don't get lost in the past except when making a better future.
THank you. I am trying to focus on career advancement, move and happy life as a mother by the end of the year.
I just still ache at his words. Is this also anger because he is no longer with OW? because his family "frowns" on his actions?
I don't know. He had a bill for thousands of dollars and he was served w court appearance back in MArch. ALL he had to do was call and say he never reaffirmed debt and ALL would have been gone with no money owed at all. I could not do it bc I'm not owner of debt. During his first month up there I would remind him he needed to call so it will end. He never did.
He was served again w court appearance and notice of judgement and I had to as well tell him this last night. WHY is he not facing reality? He commented on how he didnt have money to buy car to drive down here to go to court and implied it was my fault!!!HOW in the world is it my fault? He had to make a simple phone call. HOW am I controlling him????
I just do not get it.
M:27 H: 33 M:10/07 T:9 yrs H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010 ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10 Confirmed OW:5/21 Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery) Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)
