1. What do you mean by "reacts in a negative way"? 2. Help me understand a little more about "if she is having an affair, she will not like if I do any of those things"
The information that I was giving was advice to put some new sparks in a boring M, and "if" she is not in an A.....she will like the new you and the attention you give her. She will be happy and I'm sure you won't have trouble realizing it. However, if she is involved emotionally or physically with another man, she will see the new attention as "smothering" her. She will be turned off by flowers/gifts and she will not really want to have special dates or trips, etc. Negative response is when she is not pleased with your attempts at reviving the R.
Some women can continue to have sex with their H even when they are in an A with OM. Some women can chat with their OM, get all hot & bottered, then want to have sex. So.....they go to bed with the H.
If your W does not act very happy at your changes aNd especially any pursuing behaviors, then it is a huge red flag that an A is in progress.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
