Making myself attractive takes time. I don't know how much of that I have.
How long do you plan on being alive?
Everybody here can give you a different response of what is attractive to them or what they think the opposite sex finds attractive or refer you to a book where someone else can tell you and maybe even back it up with some statistical analysis that makes them look smart. Heck I can go off on my Know Yourself speil for you if you wish.
But in reality making yourself "attractive" if thats what you want to call it takes a lifetime, more sometimes. Elvis still has an attractive quality and he is long gone, although I swore I saw him once driving an orange corvette through Letchworth State Park, Michael Jackson still demands attraction and people flock to Gary, Indiana to glance at the house he was born in.
Its your life. Its you. Noone can tell you how to attractive; Noone can tell you how to be you. You just are. Succeed in that and people will flock to you.
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It bothers me that she doesn't see how much I have changed.
concerns me. not only does it suggest to me you are not confident with yourself to realize you are great and you are attractive already, but it reads that although you may be trying to give your wife space and probably following Sandi's list to the letter, you are subconsciously putting pressure on your wife expecting what you do will attract her to you.
Don't do that. It is sometimes the tiniest actions that will unfreeze a cold heart and it will probably be those that you did not plan on or even think about that accomplishes that.
