Why are you certain that she isn't attending the concert with OM? Remember, you can't believe everthing she tells you right now. Who did she say she was going with?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi2, I know who she says she is going with, I go in their place of employment from time to time, have actually been more lately. I'd ask something about it and she knows that. If there is actually something going on, they could be part of it, but I just don't think that is the case.
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After supper last night I told her I was headed to town to run some errands and then to work out (Felt like she was headed to her mom's and would probably leave me home with the kids). Left about 6, caller id shows up with her mom's name about 8 (she had surgery monday and had gone home yesterday), felt like I needed to answer because her mom and I are close and I wanted to make sure everything was alright with her. Well it was the wife, "Hey, what are you doing, where are you". Told her where I was. She says "Can you come to mom's and help me" I said, why what's up. "Mom is sick and they just put her mom's sister in the hospital and mom wants me to go check on her" Told her I would be on in a few minutes. "Calls back in about 30 and says she is on the way to ER with her mom and would I get kids from her mom's and help her sister do I few things while I was there". Texted me from ER with details, she came in about 130 and came to bed.
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New twist need advice. Told me this morning that she isn't going to the concert this weekend. I had thought about going out with some friends tonight (being married and finding friends to go out without their wives is tough) and then taking my kids to the beach for the rest of the weekend since we would be home alone. Last night she didn't hug the edge of the bed for the whole night. Actually, had her back to me on my side for a while. I did put my arm against her back, but didn't snuggle up to her (haven't snuggled up to her in over 16 weeks now) When she got in from the hospital last night, we talked about her mom and laughed a while about them remove the tape and what all happened with that. Her mom is going home today and her sister will be staying with her. Told her night, got night in return. What should I do?? Go out with friends tonight, go to beach by myself (haven't made hotel plans yet), both, neither, something else or tell her to kiss my tail. She brought the kids to me so we could go out to her mom's and take care of things while she went to the hospital, called her to make sure there was nothing else her mom needed done. She asked me how much longer we were staying and then what was we going to do. Just told her I wasn't sure. Did find house and apartment books in the trash when I took it out, but that doesn't mean a thing. I decided to grow myself a beard in the last couple weeks, she asked me the other night what I had going on. Told I was trying it out. Could tell she wasn't to pleased.
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Another question. Should I snuggle up behind her when she is over on my half, just put a arm or leg up to her, or turn over the other way? I use to go to sleep each night on her side, snuggled up behind her.
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Ask her, "What are your plans for being with your Mom this weekend?" Listen ------ then ask, "How can I help you with that?" Listen ------------ then say, "Great I will help you with that but on _____________ I am doing ___________."
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Should I snuggle up behind her when she is over on my half, just put a arm or leg up to her, or turn over the other way?
Don't snuggle just be. Make it a goal to get her to come to you - attract her. You wife could balance herself on a pinhead on the side of the bed so you wouldn't have to touch her. The stove is hot don't touch it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Ask her, "What are your plans for being with your Mom this weekend?" Listen ------ then ask, "How can I help you with that?" Listen ------------ then say, "Great I will help you with that but on _____________ I am doing ___________."
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Should I snuggle up behind her when she is over on my half, just put a arm or leg up to her, or turn over the other way?
Don't snuggle just be. Make it a goal to get her to come to you - attract her. You wife could balance herself on a pinhead on the side of the bed so you wouldn't have to touch her. The stove is hot don't touch it.
My thoughts too, just wanted to hear that I was thinking clearly. I'll be there, if she wants to go up stairs or out the door, that is her choice, but I'm stay in our room and house. I'm not the one that ran, so I should not chase. like the stove thing too. Good one to remember
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Ask her, "What are your plans for being with your Mom this weekend?" Listen ------ then ask, "How can I help you with that?" Listen ------------ then say, "Great I will help you with that but on _____________ I am doing ___________."
The words coach picked, as well as the order are very important.
You are offering support to your wife, you are listening to her, and you are also doing WHAT YOU WANT without asking for her permission.
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Don't snuggle just be. Make it a goal to get her to come to you - attract her.
Great advise. Focus on your confidence.(You dont NEED to be with her, you want to be with her). Read as much as you can on sex appeal.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Don't be surprised if the concert is suddenly back on for tonight..
Can you please explain exactly what happened after suppper last night again..
Please try to be more clear. I am not understanding exactly what you say happened. Who was in the hospital last night? Who went to the ER last night? Did your wife get home at 1:30 from the ER? Did her mom come home yesterday or not? I thought I read today that she is coming home today...
Your post was confusing to me. There seems to be some red flags in what happened, but I can't be sure until you explain it more clearly...
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After supper last night I told her I was headed to town to run some errands and then to work out (Felt like she was headed to her mom's and would probably leave me home with the kids). Left about 6, caller id shows up with her mom's name about 8 (she had surgery monday and had gone home yesterday), felt like I needed to answer because her mom and I are close and I wanted to make sure everything was alright with her. Well it was the wife, "Hey, what are you doing, where are you". Told her where I was. She says "Can you come to mom's and help me" I said, why what's up. "Mom is sick and they just put her mom's sister in the hospital and mom wants me to go check on her" Told her I would be on in a few minutes. "Calls back in about 30 and says she is on the way to ER with her mom and would I get kids from her mom's and help her sister do I few things while I was there". Texted me from ER with details, she came in about 130 and came to bed.
GL Different nights. Wednesday night my MIL was readmitted to hospital (had come home that morning), was suppose to go home yesterday, but doctors wouldn't release her until today. This was the night (Wed) that I left and she called for me to come to her mom's house and wanted to know where I was and what I was doing. I know she was at the hospital, I talked to her and her mom at the same time.
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