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These flaws have ruined my marriage and my relationship with my children, but I am trying to and wating to fix that also.

You can't force that to happen. The only thing you can "fix" is yourself. You recognize the need for healthy boundaries and hold yourself up to a higher standard of character and integrity, and you treat people with the respect you want to be treated in the future.

You accept the price for what you have done: you may have permanently damaged your M and your R with your entire family with you selfish, immature acts.

You accept it, and you grieve your loss even though it was largely self-inflicted. You admit that the problems in your M may not have been only yours, but what you did destroyed the M, and nobody can ever forget that.