Proud of you newmama! Ziplining and a cruiseliner!!! Very exciting! You are truly GAL. I like the idea of you taking a different approach and showing H your a fabulous gal, not just a mom! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain... Just never stop being you! Be strong. Be happy. And let him see what he is truly missing out on. We think they don't notice because they don't make 180s themselves, but I believe they do see the changes in us.
Just had this thought--if WH brings up the D before S' birthday, I will reply "Oh- you beat me to it! I was going to check in with you on where you were at in the completion of the paperwork. I'm feeling ready to date and want to get started this summer, but would feel better about if we at least started the paperwork! Now, don't worry, I will be looking for great guys only. I decided I do want to get married again because I want help raising S and well, I still believe in marriage. So yeah, do you want some help with that paperwork?"
mooo hahahaha!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Ok there has been a little bit of activity... this week during the drop offs/pick ups I have been warm, bubbly, talking about S, sharing info about my activities with and without S, and wearing new clothes.
Sunday night I texted about painting the bathroom. Monday he offered to help me; I accepted.
Tuesday night I texted him asking him if he could use his chain saw to remove the ugly bush in the front yard and we had a little back and forth texting.
Wednesday I didn't communicate at all.
Thursday I sent a pic of our lawn without the ugly bush (I used a free photoshop program) and he said we could take out the bush if I like. So I said yes, I like and then asked him a q about S' feeding. He didn't reply but when he picked up S On Thursday night he said "work was so crazy that I didn't get a chance to reply to your text!" Of course I said "that's ok! I know you don't sit by your phone and text all day!"
Also that night he asked if he could come over earlier on Saturday to mow the lawn and I got to say "actually I already did it!" in a playful tone. I was disappointed though when he said that he would have the landscapers remove the bush when they come out in a couple of weeks...he just hasn't gotten around to setting it up. So he won't be doing it himself. Oh well!
Then I asked him about some treatment for the cough I have (since he had it before). Again he offered to take S if I got too sick.
Then this morning he texts me to let me know that I should go to the dr. to see if I have bronchitis and they could give me antibiotics. I said thanks, but it's hard to take S with me to the dr. I will go to urgent care on Monday p.m. when you pick him up for the night. He replied that he had a meeting over at 3 and he could come over and watch S for me so I could go to the dr!
So of course I said thank you-I want to be well for ziplining tomorrow (lol!) and truthfully I am feeling crappy.
Gee, wonder if it bugs OW that he will be coming by to watch S- won't she say "she can get a sitter?" lol!
don't worry-- still just watching and observing--not overreading into anything! After all, I close the show in a few weeks anyway!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Yesterday evening when I got home, W told me she was going to look at an apartment in the morning. I said, "I'm sorry to hear that." I said, "I just want you to know I'm gonna miss you if you go."
Later in the evening, she asked me, "What will you do if I stay and try to work things out with you?" I said, "I would make sure we spend quality time together and do fun things together."
Wonder if you might get a similar response when you file?
