When I reflect back on the times i would sit down and talk with her, I was trying to communicate without anger or an emotionally charged tone. I thought I was doing right by communicating my concerns instead of being controlling and telling her she couldnt do xyz. I now see where I went wrong. I should have just been assertive by telling her, that its not ok with me that she is doing xyz and I will not tolerate it. As far as some of the other issues such as indifference/lack of affection. I'm not sure what I could have said/done. I let insecurities build up and get in the way.
