do you want some other opinions? where is everyone?
Good Morning to you! I got caught up on some sleep!
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Well, WN, I guess in the big picture, is your H's current discussion of R something new? I do see that you post he has been bringing it up a lot lately. That is different, right? The reason I ask is to be able to see if your current approach is helping you to see results.
I am not concerned so much with his fence-sitting at the moment. That may change as I get closer to our anniversary (7/1). I really consider him gone since he left at Christmas.
His tendency to cake-eat has me more concerned. Since the end of April, at DD16's prom, (our 1st real contact since Dec), he has been pursuing with a lot of I miss you's. I finally caved into the R talk Wed. Just an email about banking yesterday morn.
Wed., he said basically the same things he has been saying all along, which is his seeking of assurance that I am still there, jerking the rope. I was different this time, he didn't get much, if I am holding the rope, it is quite loose!
So, whatever is going on in the A, he became more concerned with my dimness. OW is probably pressuring him to get them out of the ho-tel. Which he would do if I was wanting a D or even a decision.
He did acknowledge some of the damage he is doing to the kids, without me pointing it out. He knows what he has to do, but can't bring himself to do it. I believe OW gave him ultimatum in Dec., as he was content with the cake-eating sitch he had going. Maybe he is hoping for the same from me now. I won't do it for him this time. It is hard to watch him drown, but eventually he will run out of air and come up.
Did I just talk myself in a circle or 2?
Staying dim feels safest for me now. (but I am sooo tempted to send a verbal-vomit filled email!)
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