Hey Eric, I don't know if this counts as advice but I can tell you that once my W and I got the legal stuff behind us, things got a little better. Are you guys working on a Sep Aggreement?
I had alot of agnst and apprehension around the separation aggreement and really felt I was helping end my M which I desparately did not want to do.
Once I thought about it from her perspective I realized that a separation aggreement for her is a safety net. Maybe before your W can begin to let her guard down she might want to feel like she has a "safety net".
As much as we don't trust our wives, they equally don't trust us.....they don't want to let down thier guard. They do not want to get hurt again, they see some changes in us for sure but they are looking for a guarantee and it they might feel like that legal document is the parachute. It sucks but that is what we have to give them.
It definitely is a delicate balance between protecting yourself and your kids and trying to keep the peace between you and your W.
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