Patience is the key here. It has been two years since I had the bomb dropped on me by my WAW and we have now been separated for about 8 months. I have spent this time concentrating on me instead of absorbing myself in what I should or should not do to make my WAW change her mind about leaving.
As a result I feel better about myself now than I have in years and it may have also paid off in that my WAW this morning told me that we should start spending weekends together. Not holding my breath as to whether this means a reconcilliation or not but it is a step in the positive direction for our family. Time will tell, but again I'm not rushing anything.
