Yes - staying positive and staying strong is hard - I agree 100%. Every day can seem like a struggle. I've done lots of things in the last 9 months to find what works for me and I've found that even that changes from day to day. If it wasn't hard, and was easy, I guess we all wouldn't be here looking for suggestions, advice, answers. Some days bike rides after work help, and some days they remind me too much of past times so its poison. Same with music - can be real theraputic for me or real emotional. So I change my routines and activities to whatever is working positively for me, that day. that hour, etc......
I know what you're feeling all too well - and - as I was warned early on - there is a long road ahead in all probability - with no guarantees of anything. All you can do is try to remain positive about YOU and LIFE and SON. W is gonna be a crapshoot in my mind - no telling what or when or how it will end up. For me, realizing that I just can't control that (her feelings, her decision, her love, etc.) and I should concentrate on the things I can control is what helps me stay strong.
Just hang in there and be as strong as you are able - you may not realize it, but each day you make it thru your situation, is another day you've dealt with and become stronger.
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
