you and the grad students thinking I'm goofing off!"
My 1st thought was the same as yours. "the grad students"??
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but he's blocked my access...
Its just as well. Your intuition is just as good.
I have traveled a lot without H. The kids and I missed having him share the fun, but no eggshells to worry about! We love National Parks and monuments the best. Their Jr Ranger program is awesome!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
I have traveled a lot without H. The kids and I missed having him share the fun, but no eggshells to worry about! We love National Parks and monuments the best. Their Jr Ranger program is awesome!
I'll have to keep that in mind! Since WH took control of the finances and vetoed summer camp (along with just about ANYTHING that costs money - hence the reason I took over the checkbook early in our marriage), I need to come up with some fun, relatively inexpensive diversions over the summer. Been thinking of museums, beach days (we live near the coast), local parks, etc. I'll look into my state junior ranger program.
HI SR, I read 3/4 of your thread this morning on my way to work.. I have a few ideas and questions.. I will write back later, I just wanted you to know I am reading...
HI SR, I read 3/4 of your thread this morning on my way to work.. I have a few ideas and questions.. I will write back later, I just wanted you to know I am reading...
Thanks, Allen! Appreciate it! Would love to have your insight.
He returned from his out-of-town trip around 3:30, dropped his stuff at home and went straight into work. I refused to stress about it, just told him, "Ok, see you later."
The kids and I were eating dinner outside when he wandered home around 7:30. He got annoyed that I hadn't set a place for him, but he got over it once I had son run fetch him a beer. He immediately joined in conversation about school, weekend activities, etc., and had kids clamoring for his attention.
I asked him what was the coolest thing he'd seen at the meeting, and he said the coolest thing was actually something he'd seen BEFORE the meeting, in his own lab. He ran got his laptop and pulled up some images from one of his experiments, where they'd been staining tissue samples with jelly fish venom. It was COOL! It was also the first time in probably 5 years he'd actually shown me any of his work.
I made a big fuss over it, told him how smart he was, asked him how he came up with the experiments, etc., and he showed me other stuff he'd been doing. (I've been so caught up in affair drama that I'd kinda forgotten he actually manages to do work!) Had to ask for "layman's terms" on lots of things, but he patiently explained it all to me - just like old times.
I took dishes into house and when I back came out, he was in the garden. We continued friendly conversation for another 30 minutes as we strolled around the house, looking at all his plants, and he kept saying, "Next year, I'd like to do this, this, and this."
Bottom line: I saw more of my husband - the man I fell in love with - in 2 hours last night than I have in the last 2 years.
I had a question about what the police were charging you with, but later on in the thread you mentioned harassment.
I would like to know what the specifics are on that law...
I would consider HER actions harassment if anything...
I don't wnat to give you advice right now SR while you are experimenting with this other program. I will just ask some questions for now... you may want to put the date you started this program into your signature and the expected end date... it may motivate you more and you will likley help others get in teh loop much quicker.
I would like to know what the specifics are on that law...
It's a misdemeanor charge saying that I threatened her and made her uncomfortable. Since I used an alias similar to someone's name at the university, she also had me charged with criminal impersonation (also a misdemeanor). My lawyer laughed and said she was really reaching.
LOTS of holes in all the charges, which is why I'm fighting it. Easy to see why she was floundering with her degree until my husband stepped in - no attention to detail! Her sister's a lawyer, but I doubt she consulted her. Doesn't want her family to know -
Originally Posted By: Allen A
I would consider HER actions harassment if anything...
No argument there! She willingly contributes to the breakdown of my marriage, yet I'M the one who gets in trouble. According to Univ policy, she should have been thrown out and my husband reprimanded. NOTHING happened to either one.
Originally Posted By: Allen A
... you may want to put the date you started this program into your signature and the expected end date... it may motivate you more and you will likley help others get in teh loop much quicker.
Hmm - I'll consider it. The program is designed to stop a divorce in 4 weeks, which, given WH's response, I believe it's doing. Full reconciliation could take longer...
OK, so the lawyer defending you against the harassment and other misdemeanors can't find anything to charge her with at all?
Offering a married man and your uni prof intimate gifts isnt' at all something that makes a wife uncomfortable?
Seriously?
I am all for harassment charges being acted on, but In my opinion interlopers attacking a home and a marriage should be illegal as well... There are not any states I know of that consider that a crime... There are some states that come down hard on the cheating spouse, but nothing against the third party... which I by default hold 90% accountable...
