AHHHHHH! So I just got this email from WH about wedding that we are going to on Saturday. I don't really know how to respond without completely sounding like a bitch so I need help!
"So we should probably talk about Saturday. I think it would be best not to bring anything up to anyone so as to not put a damper on person and person's day. But I need to get the info from you like when and where. Were you still planning on staying down there? Also have you gotten them a gift yet? Is it going to be from both of us? I think it should be but if that's not what you want then I need their registry info. So just email me back and let me know. I hope you're doing ok. Talk to you soon."
Here is possible response:
"H,
I don't think their wedding is an appropriate time to discuss this matter with anyone.
I have cancelled the room reservation and will not be staying there.
I will be purchasing a gift on my own, I'm not sure why we would purchase a gift together as you have decided to leave our marriage.
See you Saturday at the wedding."
You guys, I am so confused. Who am I? His mom? Why don't you email the groom and ask for their wedding website? Why would we buy a gift together? It's like he's still stuck in "couple" mode like I'm still going to do stuff for him.
I'm having a really hard time because he is obviously trying to reach out and be friendly and amicable. I agree with him that I don't think we should really discuss our seperation at the wedding because its not appropriate and would make it very awkward for the bride and groom and it is THEIR day and I don't want to cause any disruption to that.
I dont want my email to come across too "mean". He is kind of extending an "olive branch" and I at least don't want to completely act like a super B.
I know I'm suppoesd to be "going dark" but I feel bad. I mean, I guess we could get a gift together but what is the point. Is this email confusing to anyone else? Does it send mixed signals. I'm giong crazy over here. HELP ME!
