Now that I think about it, Larry told me to start visiting single mother forums and websites on our first call. I thought that was strange given that I was trying to come up with a reconciliation plan, but perhaps this IS part of the recon plan. I certainly don't feel desperate now - just annoyed that WH is wasting so much time and energy on these destructive antics.
BTW - he did call me from his trip 2x last night, which surprised me. He sounded ok on the first call but REALLY tired (and cranky) on the 2nd about 30 mins later. When I told him so, he said, "Well, what in the h*ll do you think I'm doing down here, partying? I swear, you and the grad students thinking I'm goofing off!"
I assured him I didn't, and that clearly he'd been working too hard and needed a break.
It was such an odd remark that when I thought about it later, I'm pretty sure it pointed to one thing: he'd talked to OW grad student in between our calls and had had a fight. Would love to look at the cell phone records to confirm that, but he's blocked my access...
Anyway, glad to know thinking like a single parent isn't outside the realm of normal! Am thinking more and more about a summer getaway with the kids. WH and I traveled a lot before we had them and have felt tethered for a decade because of cost and schlepping so much kid stuff. Now that they're older and don't need cribs, diapers, toys, etc., perhaps it's time to just pack our bags and go --
