I ask her what is wrong and if she wants to talk, but she just says nothnig is wrong. I know her and I know that looks she has, and somethign is wrong.
Classic DAM. That's how us guys talk to each other.
Try this next time. Stop everything, focus on her, make eye contact, have open body language, speak calmly and listen carefully to her.
"I can feel that something is bothering you. How can I help you right now?"
Being compassionate, listening, validating, and respecting her wishes will go a long way.
H(compassionate tone): "How are you?" W: "fine" (listen to her TONE). H(compassionate tone): "You (look/sound) (upset/sad/tired/irritated.....)
That makes a lot of sense. Thanks R2C and Coach. I will try this. I have tried more lately in trying to give her undivided attention for at leaast 20 minutes a night. Most nights she does not want to talk, but sometimes she does.
