MLCer or addicted infidel?

[newmama]

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Don't you see your power actually- he admitted he wants you and the family.


This didn't occur to me! If this is true, and it makes sense, I should do nothing. Or rather, keep doing what I have been doing. If he truly wants home, I gave him a life-line in re-stating my position. Right?

Let's analyze that, shall we?
Do nothing= H has been coming to you,discussing what to do, seeing if you will let OW move in, admitting he wants to come home but feels obligated.

Well, I guess that isn't too bad. You seem to have patience to let him fence sit a little longer, right? I sure have held out for a long time as well!

And yes, on his own, he will need to choose what to do.

And my position that I keep restating to him is: The door is open but I am not standing there waiting for him to walk through. LifeGoesOn!

So this means that you are living fine without him and he is free to think you might be dating but you never said you were and you never said you weren't.

Well, WN, I guess in the big picture, is your H's current discussion of R something new? I do see that you post he has been bringing it up a lot lately. That is different, right? The reason I ask is to be able to see if your current approach is helping you to see results.