Absolutely QS... the idea here is you want to set an example of adulthood.. wanting to go to family therapy, being honest and forthright rather than texting people from the shadows.. all of the adult stuff you would RESPECT someone doing under your situation...
What would you want YOUR DAUGHTER's HUSBAND doing when their marriage was troubled?
1. Talk to you face to face 2. Be factual, forthright, and honest 3. Keep in regular touch 4. WOrk on the marriage with a professional family therapist 5. Make the home an inviting place for his daughter to be
All of that is what YOu would want for YOUR daughter right?
We aren't telling you to be MEAN to this woman.. she's your wife, but we ARE telling to RESIST her baiting tactics.. that's what most of this stuff is...
She's so miserable she's picking fights to get an emotional response from you... you have to steel yourself from that and just be a respectable person...
Don't engage her lies.. she's just going to lie to you.. nothing productive is giong to come from engaging her until she starts to calmn down and consider rebuilding her marriage... she's acting otu right now and while she's doing that she's not a wife she's an unruly teenage daughter... you just focus elsewhere until she starts to act halfway reasonable.
The risk of the gatherings is that
1. She may bait you at the gathering 2. She may press you to avoid it - GO... cowards avoid it.. be a man and walk in there... you have NOTHING to be embarassed about.. HER on the otherhand...
3. She may try to run more reverse exposure... trying to expose YOU as a neglectful husband etc... 4. Show yourself, be an adult, be honest, don't say ONE NASTY WORD about your wife... She's not well right now .. that's it.. if you are exposing you expose, but don't trash your wife to anyone... let HER talk like that... YOU will look the better person and get the support...
Most adults won't support someone trashing their spouse behind their back.
