Still Moving Forward

[BeingMe]

Yes, the previous one does come across as accusatory, but I don't feel it. I was just laying out the facts. I really just want to move on emotionally. I don't think he loves me, and he hasn't in a long time. You can tell when a man loves someone, and he doesn't. And, now, I don't love him either. He is a great guy, in general. May make someone else happy, but it's too late for us. We could be friends, but never romantic partners again.

Anyway, what do y'all think about the changes below?

"Dear H, five years ago, we came here to make a fresh start, but nothing has changed. In fact, I feel things have gotten worse in our M, if that's possible. I no longer want to live as your wife. Perhaps we can separate, or divorce ... that's up to you. I don't mind living in the same house, if it suits you with all your travelling for work. I hold no grudge, or feel any ambivalence toward you. I just don't want to live in this M that has become a lie. I like you, but I don't feel any romantic love. I suspect you feel the same.

Financially and as parents we will always be tied. All of that side of the M will have to be discussed and organised and I hope with a measure of fairness and respect.

I am sorry it has come to this. I loved you passionately during our 24 year marriage, but now I just feel sad that I don't love you at all. I care about you as the father of our children, and as a dear friend that I hope we can become.

H, I wish you happiness. Twenty four years is a long time being together as a couple, so let's end it with dignity, showing the children how it can be done.

Your wife, BM"