HOW do I separate in a civil and friendly way when I feel I am being abused???
you do it by putting yourself first... and acting as if... make sure you set your boundaries, realistic ones, especially now with baby in the picture and your H being the father who now wants to take part in her life... but always, put yourself first and foremost. Detach for your own sake... be strong enough to let go... and you will no longer feel abused... detaching is just that. if you need a quick reminder of detaching and the benefits go to:
And like Newmama said, mourn the loss of this marriage... she is so right! OW is going to get sick of his A$$ and hopefully he will wake up, come out of his fog, land his space ship on earth... whatever the story may be and he will work his way back to you. and if he does, you will be starting a new relationship/marriage anyways...
Give up DBing in the sense that right now life is all about YOU! and you take this time to get stronger and enjoy the baby and let him go on his journey and make his mistakes and so on and let him grow up. you wouldnt want him back this way right? So look at it as he needs to work on himself... Detach for now.
You are strong Piano... you will get through this and come out a better person for it all...
and your babygirl will adore you and think the world of you and your amazing strength.
