MLCer or addicted infidel?

[newmama]

How do I counter that kind of manipulation?
Do I want to? I wish I had known how easily manipulated he was!! I have always been direct and honest...pouty and in need of rescue would have gotten me my way more!

What do you think of all this???

Hmmm...he obviously equally (at least) wants to come home. He does feel obligated. He knows that you are willing to wait for HIM to choose.

Ok here are some brainstorms. It's up to you to weigh pros and cons:
+soon, in your time, you could tell him you are done waiting and will be filing for D

OR
+you could pack his stuff up but not say you are filing for D

OR
+you could think of ways to help him dump her- he feels obligated to her--ha! he feels trapped and stuck???

OR
+you start acting like you don't care anymore and give the impression you are dating

OR
+you let everything go to sh!t so he sees you need him

OR
+you ask to go with him to his counselor

OK now for the record, these are all just brainstorms! I know the one about acting needy isn't DB and isn't too attractive but it is a form of manipulation that she is using. That's why I threw it in there.

Don't you see your power actually- he admitted he wants you and the family.