Ok now is time for you to look up Plan B (marriagebuilders.com) and LRT in Divorce Remedy.

I don't think it is the right time for you to list all the things you will improve in the marriage and try to sell her on it..it will come across as pleading.

Stop trying to get her back for now. Get your legal consult and the separation in place. (or at least the paperwork)

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004