Hi peace- Your D's behavior seems like typical teenage behavior to me. Most kids today are spoiled and expect to get everything their way. When it doesn't happen, they rebel. My D wanted to spend the night at her friend's house the other night and when I told her no, she told me she was going to go live with her father...something I know she absolutely does not want to do but she was just trying any way she could to get what she wanted.
Parenting is for a lifetime...however when they are finally off to college and after, we won't have to deal with their drama everday...and then we will probably miss it.
I have found that my kids cycle. They will be fine and then they are acting crazy again...and then they are fine again for awhile. Don't you remember all the pressure of being a teen...yuck! Aren't you glad you don't have to go through that again?...that is unless you have a midlife meltdown like your H.