Hmmmm, my H really didn't want to share much of his childhood issues with me...I knew some early on...learned some really bad stuff when he left and while he was gone...but pretty much since his return that subject isn't discussed...and is what pretty much led to his use of alcohol so when he quit that and got IC he did discuss it with someone else...without me there...so you might encourage him to talk to an IC about his childhood issues if he thinks he needs to. This might start the road to recovery...my H only discussed it with me when he was drunk...it was THAT bad...
I don't see a problem with the card but then I don't give FD cards anyways so what do I know?
Learning to listen was a biggy for me too...still working on not interupting cause I think I know what he is going to say...
Don't over do the "you can talk to me about anything"...that might start to feel like pressure to talk to you and subtle control issues at wanting to know what he is thinking...my H got extremely private about his feelings a lot when he was working through his "journey".
