She repeatedly insists that the Marriage was 200% over in the beginning of May. There was absolutely no going back for her. "I don't love you like a Husband, and I haven't for a while now". She said she reached her "breaking point" right then.
She felt unappreciated and not very sexy and began talking with a married guy about marital problems. One thing led to another, bam emotional/sex chat affair and nude pics. She didn't feel bad because she ALREADY knew she was going to divorce me.
Then she reconnects with this FB guy, who also has been through a Divorce, and he starts giving her attention. One thing leads to another, and nude pics and sex chats, with later on planned video chats.
She says she lied "only to save me extra pain" because she already knew she was hurting me by being 200% committed to divorce. She gave me false hope about a "chance" and continued these sex chats.
Is is possible any of this is true, or is she just re-writing marital history and justifying what she knows to be wrong?
MWD writes in DR that some spouses are truly too far gone to do ANYTHING about, and that you really can't apply anything to them. But she also says you can't tell the difference.
I have read repeatedly, the ILYBAMILWY is the direct result of a EA/PA, and causes the WAW to rewrite history to make justifications.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
