Too Late For Us?

[mrbt]

ShockedOne, Yes. I understand that I cannot blame the OM entirely. However, he is not blameless. This started as an EA a year ago and at that time he most definitely knew she was married. I found a few of the emails. He was the one to suggest the the secret cell phone (that's how I got his number BTW). I don't know when the affair became physical. Wife claims this was the first time but a suspect it has happened before.

I called the OM because I want him to have some level of discomfort. I want him to know he is not anonymous and that his participation could cause problems in his life. It occurred to me today that they were both very drunk while driving back from the bar. He's a truck driver. I wonder how hi employer might feel about this. Also, I had been told by wife before that he was in a relationship - engaged? But have no idea if this is the truth.

Anyway, I know he is not really the problem. But I certainly don't want to make his life easy.

As far as wife leaving. I plan to wait until I see my counselor before I do anything.