Completely Blindsided

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Yeah, that counselor was definitely onto something there. There is some truth to it. We have to get our baggage from somewhere, and it's got to start at home.

My parents are lovely people, and still in a deeply loving marriage some 30+ years in.
That said, my mother martyrs herself constantly (which I emulate), and my father has some of the most negative opinions of people I've ever known. These are things I need to work on, along with my self confidence and try to dodge my darker moods.

You're not bad in feeling the way you do. I may allow myself to indulge in negativity (which is something very difficult to battle given my current sitch), but I can also see what it does to my day to day life, and it's something I've been meaning to work on for a while....now I've just got time and a good reason to finally get around to it.

My parents don't really argue all the time, but they also don't let things fester. From them I learnt that problems need to be aired, and as a result never let things lay that needed to be talked about. I thought my W had come to learn the merits of this as well. But she had been taught by her parents that you push negativity down and live as if it doesn't exist.

Her parents divorced when she was 13, in a very bitter dispute.

Her mother is now married to a man she admits to not loving. Her father is married to his 3rd wife who has told us she is leaving him.

And now she is leaving me.