Gotta chime in here folks. We all get older, things sag, bag, and age creeps up on either sex. Society has always insisted that standards of beauty are important. The thing is, those standards change frequently and we cannot all be super models or meet the "ideals" without harm to ourselves. Having plastic surgery to try to meet those ideals can be unhealthy and even deadly.
I am a large, vibrant, voluptuous, confident woman that takes good care of herself, dresses well and could care less that I am not as thin as a toothpick to meet the societal ideal of a beautiful woman. Do I wish that I were thinner? I am happy with myself which I think is more important. Would it matter if I were thinnner to my H? He did not have much interest in intimacy when I was thinner so I don't think that was ever the issue.
I have been watching Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and laughing so hard at these guys that are, well, to put it kindly, slobs. They want the ideal beautiful woman but are not model themselves. How shallow is that?
The jist of this is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I am a beautiful woman inside and that is what should count. See me for who I am, not what I look like on the exterior. As long as I am well groomed, neat, clean and i have my confidence, that is what you should be focusing on. I have never been and will never be the "ideal" woman, but I am myself and that is much more important. I know that I am attractive to men other than my H, and that makes me feel good about myself, too.
I feel pity for people that feel that they must match the societal ideas of beauty and torture themselves into conforming to those unrealistic standards. Very few people can attain those standards, and fewer still have that natural beauty.
So, Viva La Rubens! He understood the importance of what a real woman should look like. There is a new movie out on HBO, "Real Women Have Curves" It was nice to see women with all of their outer flaws portrayed with their inner beauty. I enjoyed that film immensely.
