So true Steve- there can be no reconcilliation with out complete ownership of the wrong doings- otherwise dead in the water.

And "but, excepts, etc." are unaccceptable

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)