Yeah. You told this other woman you loved her. That was wrong and stupid and unforgiveable to most.
I personally do not believe in the idea of "fog" and "aliens" and "mid-life-crisis" as defined by many people on this site. I believe people are fully aware of what they say and how they act and they realize the responsibilities and consequences associated with their words and actions in any situation. Taking out a loan you can't afford, eating a meal high in cholesterol, cheating on your wife, are all regrettable but conscious decisions one makes. When one aims to escape a relationship or compensate for something missing within they do it intentionally. Hence, they have taught about it.
Being an adult you are fully aware of right and wrong. To say you were "backed into a corner," shows you have not put much taught yet into why you let this continue for as long as you did. I did not read that someone was holding a gun to your head.
My wife reads this site at times with me and one thing she had pointed out as unbelivable was
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What I failed to mention about the phone sex was that 99% was for her and initiated by her and I spoke words for her that she wanted to hear so she could get off. I did it a couple of times in begining and there was nothing there for me you being a man understand what I'm talking about??
As a man no I don't. And as a woman my wife suggested that maybe you have issues with your sexuality that you were a willing participant in this sexual voice relationship. I don't know and I dont care, but I think to have any chance of reconcilling your marriage you first need to be honest with yourself, and then your wife. To allow this to happen for the reasons you state are serious character flaws and may be a greater obstacle in the process then phone conversations you had.
