Thank you for saying this. I needed to hear it because I think he's done this without me even realizing it. Now I'll know to be aware of it and watch for it.
The thing is you want him to see you don't NEED him... Once he realizes he's been replaced with your friends who you collect to help with kids, laundry, cooking, etc He's just there taking up space.. it will BOTHER him...
he won't LIKE that your FRIEND is replacing him and his role...
SOund familiar?
Its a patonic affair.. you get a girlfriend to do all his work, get three gf's to run shifts and do it... He is NOT WELCOME to do ANY of the work...
If he tries you tell him :
"Your involvement in this family is not welcome. Go away please, we need a respectable husband and parent here with us, and right now I don't see one"
If he tries to make dinner you tell him :
"Whatever you make I'm throwing it out, so don't waste your time"
If he tries to do laundry :
"Whatever you wash I am just going to wash again, keep away from our clothes... Go to your childish phone and act like a teenager, we don't need that around here... we need a husband and parent and I don't see one around here..."
Keep that routine up.. when he realizes he's been OUSTED by your friends and their warm support he will be furuious most likley...
Don't let him get involved wiht the family, REPLACE him with a platonic female friend... you, daughter, and your friend go to the movies and the park etc... leave your H out of the loop...
Ie he complains :
"You aren't welcome as part of this family until you are prepared to ACT LIKE a father and a husband, right now I see a lying, cheating, sociopathic person that I don't want around my daughter... Please LEAVE"
Don't say the obvious "how does it feeel to be replaced?"
