The one thing I might suggest is for you to avoid using words like "cannot" with your W and always going right to the negative.
Your W just asked about having her family over and you right away went to "I can't do it alone". IMO that sounds negative.
Just for the future something along the lines of "W, I think it's possible if WE work TOGETHER".
At this point I would take things for what they are. Your W wants to have her family over and show off her house. It may or may not mean something for the future. But use this opportunity to your advantage. Working on a common goal is a GOOD thing!
No negativity during this process, no assuming, no snotty comments and make it all about the two of you working together!
