Gotcha, back off and remain distantly patient? That is what I need to hear when all here want me to take action. It is tempting to listen since life can be h*** alone after a 36 yr relationship.
Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.
I have read a good deal of books on the subject and can give you some suggestions when you are ready. I will give you a bunch of homework assignments to read. This is my new and improved list of links.
Now you have all the tools to read. Let us know how your doing and if you have any questions.
I suggest that you read the entire thread in the resources. You can also pick out some people and read their whole story.
Remember that in the stages of MLC it does NOT go 1,2,3,4,5,6 but can get all mixed up and repeat itself and have more than one stage at once. Depression is the key to the whole thing and it is always present!
But lets not worry about him. Lets work on you! Start your homework assignments. GAL. Detach. Use the time that your H has given you as a gift to start to work on yourself.
Did I miss the part where he stated he wanted to work on the marriage, and is taking steps toward reconciliation ?
Cause up till that point, your focus should be entirely on yourself and healing for you.
How much have you read on MLC and its affects on the LBS ?
And the path of the LBS?
Where would I find these? And no, you are right,no talk of reconciliation. Thanks, your post,as well as the others today,were helpful in re-centering. It's been too much about him in my mind and not enough about me. I just feel so lost in where to go from here
Guess I have more reading to do than I thought. Shoot a book list at me, I've been trying to read what people have suggested in other posts since fall. It would be nice to have a list all in one spot.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
