One attribute of just about every person who comes and eventually stays at this board is humility.
It takes humility to admit that we had a role to play in the disintegration of our marriage.
It takes humility to admit that you are powerless to change the mind of another person.
It takes humility to accept that your spouse could choose to stop loving you and begin loving another.
It takes humility to admit that you don't know what the hell you're doing in trying to navigate through the waters of separation/divorce.
It takes humility to admit that you not only could use the help and advice of others, but that you damn well need it.
Show me a person who has been on this board for any prolonged length of time who does not give off a clear air of humility.
Divorce flippin humbles us. And it damned well should.
My experience on this board tells me that even here the odds are against finding a way toward healing our marriages. I shudder to think how much worse the odds are for those who are arrogant enough to think they have it all figured out, and therefore never turn to others for help, advice, and support.
Brad, I hope you come back. Mostly because, if things have taken a turn for the worse, you're daily walking through a living version of one of the nastier circles of hell. And when you're in THAT place, it sure helps to have some friends around you - even if they are the cyber variety.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
