YES, there is actually a TV show for addicts CALLED intervention.. its great research material... watch a few being done, watch how resistant the addict is... watch how manipulative and angry the addict gets too.. its scary!
Do it, but plan it out well...
If you can see the emotional impact your exposure is having on him, do MORE... he is doing to be fighting that and trying to hide it, he will try to hide his guilt with ANGER...
Don't talk to him or try to make him feel bettr.. he will be playing victim big time here... just let him WHIMPER in his own MESS... OKAY?
There is a tendency by newcomers to infidelity here to empathize and sympathize and let the addict off the hook.. its a TRICK.. don't fall for it.. stay emotionally detached.. think Mr Spock here.. poker face.. that vulcan can intimidate anyone into maturity...
Watch this at the library or something.. somewehre that your H isn't around.
If you can get your exposure group together to watch it that's even BETTER.. this vid is by Michele Davis and is targeted for the exposure group to educate them well...
I have seen it at least six times.. watch and take lots of notes
It runs about 45 mins or so.. great stuff.. i can't endorse this video enough
