Just found out she already filed

[alice444]

[edited to add this first paragraph after reading Kerry's reply)- I say always cc yourself on everything you send her so you can send it to your L if you need to. And whenever you need to, without going overboard, cc him too or go through him. For these small back and forth emails not sure you need to- but after it's cleared up, I WOULD send something in writing to both L's saying: "STBXW and I have agreed we're doing xxx for school and just wanted to put this in the record")


//
You and I both need more clarity around our own sitches. But I think we're good at advising each other!

So, I think she wants to do what she wants to do when it suits her and not when it doesn't (funny, my H has said the same thing about me . She pulled out the big guns and spent bucks investing in her L to ensure she was set with suppport b/c that was very important to her. But now that she got the settlement she wants, she's going to be "reasonable" and not "waste money". She may also realize now- as you should keep in mind- anything she writes has a permanent record, so appearing to be the "reasonable" one who saves both of you money looks good.

1. forget about the fact that she's now championing the same cause you tried to convince her of months ago. Let it go, knowing you were right. And you were right, but she'd probably just say "no I always thought it was a good idea to talk directly, blah blah".

2. Do NOT rise to the bait of "that could've been 1/2 month's tuition, just saying". That's a loaded gun, ignore it. Again, you were right, and we know that.

3. What does she mean by "get it settled"? Is she just ignoring the fact that you literally can't afford private school and hoping you'll give her a different answer this time? Is there any question which public school/district she'd be in in the fall? If I were you, I'd send her an email back, blatently ccing yourself so she knows you have a copy (and your L if you want- up to you how paranoid you are about documenting- but that could also set up a sitch where she gets back at you by cc'ing her L on every little thing... so maybe not). I would say:

"Hi- I'm not sure what there is to "get settled". She'll be in xyz public school district and xyz grade school in the fall. Please clarify what else there is to "settle".

Thanks,
Romeo"

And then send us her response to that.