I'm definitely going to keep posting.. I know this is only the beginning of the D chapter in my life.
Thank you!
In a way, I feel relieved? because I know it's not ME. All this time I have thought it was me but it wasn't. I didn't do anything wrong...and in that, I know that I'll be okay..and moreso my children.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Oh thank goodness! I was so worried from the sounds of how you'd ended your last post! I'm glad you're going to continue getting support - you deserve it! I can see why you'd feel relieved - and although it must be awful to have learned what you did from the OW, it must be validating indeed, to know. I'm glad you're feeling confident for yourself and your wee ones - that speaks volumes of your character. Will be thinking of you - take good care of yourself today. PG.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Awww sweetie. Big hugs to you. What kind of support system do you have there for the next few days? Do you have any family close by that can come for tea this weekend? Or any close girlfriends you can connect with? Sitting there alone with this knowledge must be sad. Is there anyone there you can reach out to?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
CityGirl, You're in NY, right? I am looking into attorneys and the retainers are ridiculous.. I'm going nuts. I feel like I'll never be able to get away from this pr!ck
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Yeah, the retainers can be a doozy! You might be able to recoup legal fees by having your attny petition the court for an immediate reimbursement of your legal fees (that is what I did!).
My mom opened up a retirement account for me to pay my retainer (it was part of my late father's estate so the money was sort of earmarked for me anyhow but this is NOT how I wanted to use it). My attny suggested I NOT take the money from joint funds to better exhibit my inability to pay for legal counsel.
Anyhow, we "won" and my H not only had to pay ALL my legal fees but he also had to pay my mom the money she took out to get my retainer.
Not that you want to have to do this but I think most attnys take credit cards. It will have your line of credit tied up for a while but it's better than having to source all liquid cash!
This part of the process (retaining counsel and proceeding forward) can be VERY overwhelming in this state. I am here, I can relate to how difficult it can be!
