Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

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Hi BD,

I don’t post much at all anymore, was here several years due to my marriage problems, they are nothing like yours, but I read through your posts, and felt that I wanted to say something, I am sure it been said before.
First you are an incredibly strong women and you should be so proud of yourself being prepared to face your future as a single Mum!

I have to say that you should not try and make any life altering decisions right now, wait until after the baby, give your hormones a chance to settle, because even though we don’t like to admit it! Our hormones rage right now! I remember getting upset and crying hysterically because I didn’t have any black socks!! Then being upset cuz I was upset over something so stupid!!

Love and hate are both very passionate emotions, and are very close in how they work! You have every right to be angry and hurt! But its time to stop beating your h up!
I do feel that he is trying, and doing it the only way he knows how, however if you keep flying off at him it will drive him away.
I am not trying to be harsh with you, I see how much you love and want your husband, its very obvious, just sit back and focus on the baby right now, don’t try and figure out what your H wants or is doing, because you just won’t be able to! Our minds just can’t work in the way theirs does, so for right now accept that he wants to be there with you and for you.
And truly see where it’s going to go.
You are missing out on a wonderful experience, because you are so focused on your h and marriage you aren’t appreciating this experience you are going through with being pregnant, yes the shine is off a little bit because of what happened, but don’t let it take away from this special time.

You can not control what your H does, so don’t try, it’s a futile thing, focus on what you can control, you and preparing for the birth.

Take good care of yourself and the baby! And get all the rest you can right now.