Confused and looking for advice

[hockeymom12]

If anyone has any advice on how to handle my next post that would be great.

I got home last night and H was right behind me, we were suppose to go to ball together but I had decided that was not a good idea. He kept asking why I wasn't going with him and I just said we can talk about it later. So later on I was in my room when he came back, he came in and said do you want to talk to me, to which I replied no I do not have anything to say other than thank you for the offer to drive me to ball I just did not fell up to it tonight. At this point he says have you given any more thought to me spending every second weekend here with the kids, I said no I want to talk to my lawyer and counsellor first. This is where is all goes to hell, he then gets upset that I will not give him anything and he deserve stuff and he has a seperation agreement written up and wants me to sign it. I tell him I am not ready for this, I am not ready to give up on our marriage. As he is leaving I ask him for a hug and he holds on so tight, I then ask him the OW question again and he says since we have split up I have been on 2 dates with 2 different women, one for 45 minutes and coffee and the other one out for drinks, while my son hears this and goes ballistic after his father leaves but that is a different story. At this point I remain calm but tell him I am hurt by this. I do not beg for him back at any point in this conversation but I do tell him I love him as he is leaving and he turns around as if he wants to say something but does not. Before this whole conversation he accidently called me honey.

So we fast forward to today and he calls me and we end up on this topic again, he wants the kids, they do not want to see him alone and I am the witch who is keeping him away from them and turning them against him. I inform him that our son heard him the night before to which he replies for crying out loud I am not seeing anyone I went on 2 akwards dates and realized I am not ready for that yet. At this point he goes on to say that since I am not open to signing the seperation agreement he is not open to going to the MC anymore, why should he give me something if I will not give on anything. At this point I reply so this is a test, if I give on some stuff you will say I am changing but if I don't then you are done? He replies no, there is even a clause that if we get back together then the seperation agreement is null and void, I cannot even say what is going to happen with us, we might get back together.

So what I need advice on is how do I handle this, I know I have to take the agreement to my lawyer and I will be doing that but do I ask him to at least work on our marriage or do I continue with the 180 and just act like it is not bothering me. I am also having a hard time with leaving the house, the kids do not want me to and I do not get why I have to be put out for him.

Thanks for reading.