Just be wary of artificial deadlines in your head. I was doing that a lot last year and each time one came and went without any improvement -- or movement the wrong way -- I'd emotionally crash.
I'm sorry if my opinion sounded too strong. Everyone deals with things in their own way. I remember back in December getting all kinds of advice from people saying I should just move back home.
It didn't feel right to me -- and so I didn't do it -- and even though I'm closer to D than ever before I'm feeling better than I have since March of 2009.
A big difference between you and I is that my STBXW and I are both active parents. I know STBXW will keep her family in my daughter's lives. I don't have to do that -- which is good because I'm not sure I would.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
