Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

They should start another thread here for exposing and putt a chapter in the book somewhere. 6 months of LRT really screwed me and what i was trying to acomplish.

Allen.. the women in the her family all had affairs on their partners when their children were our sons age and left them for O/M. Only to return six months after every divorce.

How f uped is that?

[Allen A]

How many women in teh same family did this?

Well TWolf you can't admit you didn't have due warning then!

This is actually good news in a way... they call came back right?

[twolf]

Allen they all did this.

[Allen A]

Jesus... well, at least you know its not YOU!

[twolf]

Hey Allen.. the STBXW sent me a text yesterday wondering who would pick up son from her grandmother and to let me know what time the pickup would be.

I did not text back.

It has been the same time and place for six months and my mom picks him up.

My mom had to pick up newphews dad at airport he came in for nephews 8th grade graduation. He is stationed in virgina in the navy.

So my mom shows up with BIL and i guess son was a little scared of him because he has not seen him sence he was one. He caulmed down in seconds. No big deal.

MIL sent me a text a couuple of hours later..... have you seen son yet or heard from your mom. Granny wants to know cause he did not want to go with your mom and kept crying and reaching for grannie. We want to know if he is ok and calmed down.

My reply he is fine. He just hassent seen BIL in a year and didnt rember him when he went to pick him up. Not a big deal.


Then she texted back granny felt bad and didnt want to leave him.
Give him a kiss for us and tell him we love him.

I said will do.

These people act like if son is not with them then something is wrong. Basicaly Mil is F...ed up way of thinking.

Well i sent her a text pick of son on kids quad smiling. That should shut her up that son does have loads of fun with his dad.


I refuse to play their games.

[twolf]

Ok stbxw found out that i got invited to be at an event that her and the O/M are going to be at she came unglued.

She started ranting and raving that no one wants you her.
That im not welcome no ono likes you you are just doing this to make my lif misaerable. She wanted to know what day i was coming down i told her it was none of her buissness. She wanted to know if i was staying over night and etc. I just said you would wait and have to see. Now i know the O/M wont be their because he is affraid of me and thats what she is mad about.
Dang i ruined their week end .

Then MIl calls me up and bitches me out that im making Stbxw and her life missrable i told her that i dont want her calling me that i dont respect her. then she found out im letting WAW real dad watch him over night and she told me i have no right to let son stay with him. That she and the stbxw should be the only one who decides who watches son. I told her that that is none of her buissness.

I told her that as a grand parent he has as much right as she does and it is not her dession to make.I allso told her that she would stop saying lies about me and her freinds told me what she has said about me and thy think that you are a premoddona. Then i hung up on her.

I DO NOT RESPECT THIS WOMEN....................

[Allen A]

Yup, this MIL of yours is a huge part of why things are the way they are...

I don't know about telling her you don't respect her... I would take the high road and just tell her "this is the way it is" and exit the conversation

Don't hang up on her, this will antagonize your wife.. your wife does NOT want to hear that you are being rude to her mother.. that's not gonig to help you...

I know MIL is rude, but you just have to stay out of that... you don't have to cooperate or HELP her, just control yourself so you aren't rude.. if she complains just nod and offer an "I'm sorry you feel that way" and keep on with your business...

"I'm sorry you feel that way" is a good catch all comment to any of her complaints... Then just tell her you have another call on the line and tell her good bye

Good call on not telling your wife the info she wants.. don't give her ANY info... keep her on the defensive... start showing up at events her and OM are at to throw them off...

You have the idea... just make this nonsense affair of hers a miserable headache... they WILL Fight if you keep giving them something to fight about

[twolf]

Ok update...

Went to mediation again yesterday, told the mediator that i think we should have our cell phones off i think it is disrespectfull that STBXW keeps texting wy we are their.
He asked her to turn her phone off.

She really didnt want to cave on parenting time.
Then she started complaing about the reason were getting a divorce is because u want things your way or we cant talk was because of you etc waw bs.

I said NO the reason were getting a divorce is because you left our family and marrige for another man.

She started balling like i never seen her cry before this lasted 15 min.

I stood my ground and told her that i wanted time with my son and we did not cause this she choose this not us and wy should we pay the price for her mistakes.

She must of been crying 40 min of the hour in half we were their.

I told her lets just get this over with.
Butt she could not agree on anything.


Then last night at 11.30 i got a text message from her lets see the judge about extending out the divorce date a couple months.
She does not want a third party deciding the fate of our son.


I told her that part of me wants to get it over with today and i dont know. Butt i will give it a couple more months.


I think the exposing the A is fianly starting to get some where and the affair has really started to eat away at them and her.

Allen.. what are you thinking on this one?

[twolf]

Allen any advice for me bro in my 11th hour?

[Allen A]

Yup... keep it up man.. its working.. it usually does