Get him over the hump? You can't. That's the point of these boards, the reading, and your path. Hopefully you're path is straight up the mountain, that's the path I took. Too long to wind along the mountain with the MLCer, slowly climbing so your legs don't get tired. Nope, charge right on up and learn, grow, GAL.
You can't get or help him to do anything. I know, I was in your place just a short time ago. Thinking I could DB and get him back. DBing is part of it, but the rest is knowing this is a long haul. Shorter for some, let's hope you are one of those. But for all, it's relatively long.
Your job is to grow you, find the things about you that you want to fix. We all have them. Do the things you always wanted to do. Grow, learn, do. Set goals, but make most of them about you.
This is truly the only way you can get through this.
And if you have the stamina and stick-to-it-tiveness you will make it to the end. Maybe by then, H will have caught up and see you waiting for him.
