You're screen name sets the stage. If you want to be all mellencholly (yeah I spelled it wrong Grit...get over it its not a tuber from Nigeria) at least be...more subtle about it. : )
So Poe.
Before we move forward,
Let me ask you a question.
Who can YOU control? Absolutely 100% control?
Past that question,
Check out the resources at the top of this board for MLC and see if your husband fits. If you havent, and are basing your opinion of him soley on societies views of an MLC you might be wrong. : )
I'm sure others will be along rightly to pick apart certain things in your history.
: )
You came here for support. Well, you came to the right place, however support isn't just:
"Oh you poor thing, he is a beast and she is the spawn of the devil, you did nothing wrong and deserve silk sheets when you wipe your butt."
: )
You're going to acttually feel poked prodded and sometimes attacked.
You'll get stronger here, and we will support you, but you will also see the role you played in the demise of your marriage, while you, hopefully, work on becoming a better person all around.
Not everyone here 'saved' their marriage. That is your current defintion of success, and that is ok even though that is wrong.
But most everyone here has saved themself...or is working on it. And in time you will realize that is the true success.
Nice to met you Poe, this is the best worst place to be right now.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
