He removed me as his friend on facebook and he changed his status to single.
Getting divorced isn't THAT easy The stuff people do. I finally--after many months--hid my relationship status. I just did that the other day, and my W filed for divorce on 5/27. I am still not sure I feel good about doing it, but I stopped wearing the ring when she moved out because it was just making me feel bad when I looked at it.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Trying to remain positive although I feel like I'm going to unravel.
Need some advice on how to proceed moving forward.
I never responded tohis last texts. Then he removed me fro facebook.
He came this morning as usual and went into the other bedroom.
I didn't say a word to him.
And then left to go to work
Is my marriage over? I just don't buy this crap. I wish he was able to let me in. Can anyone please give me some advice. What do I do? It took every bit of me not to say something to him.
Honestly. My heart breaks for him. He is very sick right now. This isn't the same beautiful person I married.
What do I do?
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Is my marriage over? I just don't buy this crap. I wish he was able to let me in. Can anyone please give me some advice. What do I do? It took every bit of me not to say something to him.
If the OW is not still in the picture, then you take your focus off of him, and focus on yourself: Make timehealsall happy.
It's hard, I know, but if the OP is out of the picture while he is still in the house, then your M has a much better chance than mine did.
You focus on doing stuff for yourself, you walk away from unwinnable arguments, but you don't let yourself be a doormat.
You have to be the confident, calm, self-assured one who is standing on principle.
I'll tel you this much: as hard as it is when they are in the house with you, after the initial feeling of peacefulness wears off after they move out, you still have to do what I am describing.
Change up your routines, get things in order, and don't make the "problems" in your M the main focus. If you focus all of your energy on your M problems, you won't be able to break the cycle.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I don't know. I won't lie that part of me thinks that maybe the whole OW being pregnant thing isn't maybe on his mind.
All the intel and everything I have proves NO that he isn't with her.. but my insecurities and with everything that has happened, I have my guard up. Anything is possible.
When I left, he was "sleeping" in the other room.
I just came in and I had installed a keylogger on my home computer and he must have jumped on the computer right after I left by the looks of the report
he has gone through all of my emails. each and every single one.
he has also gone onto my skype account and was checking the logs and he IM'd one business contact posing as me to solicit business (I used to handle H's marketing and business development).
So I just keep to myself and don't approach him or anything, right?
This is going to be so hard.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
It's been a rough road and I feel I gave it my all but after speaking to the OW (I called her) and finding out that H has been with her the entire time and has been lying to me and he was sleeping her (while she is pregnant and it may or may not be his), this is the final straw.
now, it's time for me to be proactive and protect me and my children.
thank you for all the support you have given me.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Ohhhhhh Time, I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you today. Be strong. Thinking of you. Don't go away though - you're not going to stop posting I hope! You need support now more than ever. Please keep posting! ((((((Time)))))
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
The stuff people do. I finally--after many months--hid my relationship status. I just did that the other day, and my W filed for divorce on 5/27. I am still not sure I feel good about doing it, but I stopped wearing the ring when she moved out because it was just making me feel bad when I looked at it.