Not sure which way to go anymore

[Mystik]

Home with DS today, he woke up crying that he doesn't want his daddy and me to get unmarried, that he doesn't want a step-daddy, he wants his real daddy. He said he's afraid that if we get unmarried he'll never see his real daddy again. I assured him that whatever happens, his real daddy will stay his real daddy and he'll still see him, it will be just like it is now. He was slightly appeased, but is still very worried that H and I are going to get unmarried and doesn't want that to happen. He asked if we could stay home today for extra cuddle time, and I agreed. I felt that DS needed me more today than he needed school or work needed me. And he has been glued to me the whole morning, just sitting with me quietly and cuddling while watching tv or watching me play a game on the computer.

I'm at a loss as to how to explain this to DS. What words can I say to reassure him that even if H and I get unmarried that DS will still be our number one priority? It makes it even harder when I don't want a divorce, either. And I told DS he should talk to his daddy about how he feels, DS refused and said he would rather talk to me, not that he's even doing that. So I get stuck dealing with the messy part of separating and H is in his own fog-filled world.

Sent a crumb to H last night, e-mailed him the newest picture of DS the school took. It's an adorable picture, hope H appreciates me thinking to send it to him.