Maybe right now you should focus on what you need. You can't guess what he wants or doesn't want. Maybe by being more forth coming with your thoughts and feelings it will allow Gabe the strength to do the same. You know I don't have this down pat in any way. I can tell you however, I felt so much better telling K what my thoughts had been and why I reacted that way. I said my peace (without any emotions thrown in).
You guys are going to get there, but you have to start having faith in yourself.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory