And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

Thanks so much Lin ... I've been catching up on some of your old post. So much of what you say resonates with me ...


So, I spoke to the MC yesterday (I emailed her Friday re what to do, and she called me back). We chatted about it and she is in complete agreement that at best, we would be wasting our time, and at worst, we could set him back from the work he seems to be doing on himself. Having him shift his focus back to us is not what is best for anyone right now. She booked an appt for us in mid July and emailed me the new date and time.

I sent H an email this morning:

"I got an email from MC ... our appt today has been cancelled ... our next 'monthly' one is booked for July 15th at 2:30 (it's a Thursday too) ... Have a great day!"

H's reply:
"sooo...we dont go to talk to anyone till the middle of July? why did she cancel?"

My reply:
"dunno ... we can probably rebook for next week or something if you want to ...."

Then, no reply from H so I'm dropping it. H called me a short while later to chat re $ (it's his payday) and we had a nice chat, sorted some stuff out ... he never mentioned the MC so neither did I. I asked how he wanted this evening to work (re supper/groceries/grass) and he suggested a fast food joint and then said he would take the kids home and start the grass while I got the groceries. I offered to take S2 with me (he's the one who is hard to watch while cutting the grass) and he said that'd be great. He figures he can have the grass almost cut by the time we get home.

Normally, I would have tried to get him to come to the grocery store with me and the kids so that he had to hang around longer at the house to get the grass done but I said nothing. This is how he wants to do it, so fine by me (180s in action!).

Question ... on family day, or at some appropriate time, should I slip something in about us being able to talk, if he wants, without the MC present - not actually start a R talk, but let him know that I'm open if he needs to say something? Or should I just BE available for the conversation if and when he wants it?