Interesting what you say snodderly. Is he maybe going through acceptance and rebelling since the last contact was 8 mos ago in which he said he wasn't going to talk to her and asked me not to do the same. He is trying to turn what he did around so that I look like the guilty one along with OW for contacting me. I told him we were not to blame. OW was respecting my wish to know about any significant contact( which she and I deem significant as it has happened twice with him waiting for her to strike up convo (which he denies says it was in passing, doesn't matter. I told him that he has had an emotional affair with OW and because of that he should not be talking to her in any capacity if he wants our marriage. Told him if he wants a friendship with her and talk to her in any capacity, he can't have a marriage with me. His choice. He has yet to answer me and I will ask for the answer tonight. He has shut down as I knew he would. Thank you Jack and Snodderly.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
