Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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"I was going to REALLY give you an honest chance. My hear was searching for affection, and if you had waited and been patient, all that sex chat could have ended up being you"

It's like exposing an alcoholic: I was going to stop drinking for you, but you needed to be more patient and understanding, and now that you have told everyone, I am going out to buy a full case of Jack Daniels.

See? It's clearly your fault for exposing me?

She LIED to her parents faces yesterday about the affairs, EVEN THOUGH THEY ALREADY KNEW, and they still told her to go through with the Divorce.

The parents just want their child to stop hurting. They are thinking like protective parents, but they aren't doing good parenting because they aren't letting her clean up her own messes and are encouraging her to run away because their hearts are breaking just seeing their child this way. It takes a lot of strength and character as a parent to let your children solve their own problems.

It's understandable, but they aren't setting a very good example of what it takes to take personal responsibility.

My heart goes out to her parents, but unfortunately I disagree with their position: sometimes tough love is the best thing a parent can do.


I'm not trying to be sanctimonious here. Most parents have difficulty with seeing how letting their kids solve some of their own problems can lead their kids to be healthier and happier adults. Most of us, as kids, didn't have good examples of how to deal with our failings and were encouraged, instead, to just give up and try something else.