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[awest1217]

The other thing is a lot of people say 18 months is minimum for a WAS to come home. I am at 14 months and if H doesn't want a D then why push for it if that is not what I want? I am not making contact first. He always is first. We never talk about OW or anything like that unless I give a short jab to him about her like saying if he doesn't want to do anything with us on his birthday he better not do anything with her either.

Like I said, it isn't like he is trying to move in without getting rid of OW. We aren't doing big family things. We go out to eat maybe once every other month, but usually we only see H at the in-laws. When H comes over, more and more of the pics of him are gone and more and more is being boxed so he knows that I am slowly moving on without him, and when I talk about the things I am doing around the house, i see the pain and guilt in H's eyes. He can't fake that.

I guess there is still hope. Maybe I should be more boundary oriented, but it isn't like he is staying the night or anything. We just text and that is it.