Is my marriage over? I just don't buy this crap. I wish he was able to let me in. Can anyone please give me some advice. What do I do? It took every bit of me not to say something to him.
If the OW is not still in the picture, then you take your focus off of him, and focus on yourself: Make timehealsall happy.
It's hard, I know, but if the OP is out of the picture while he is still in the house, then your M has a much better chance than mine did.
You focus on doing stuff for yourself, you walk away from unwinnable arguments, but you don't let yourself be a doormat.
You have to be the confident, calm, self-assured one who is standing on principle.
I'll tel you this much: as hard as it is when they are in the house with you, after the initial feeling of peacefulness wears off after they move out, you still have to do what I am describing.
Change up your routines, get things in order, and don't make the "problems" in your M the main focus. If you focus all of your energy on your M problems, you won't be able to break the cycle.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
